The four goals of childhood misbehavior are to gain attention, power, revenge, or to display inadequacy. Reesa is going all out on the first two. The symptoms of the first one--
How do you feel? --- Bothered, annoyed
What do you usually do? --- Remind, nag, scold
How does your child usually respond? --- Stops temporarily (or doesn't, in the case of Reesa). Later, misbehaves again.
Goal --- Attention
Yup, I'm right there with all of that. Just have to remind myself to get out of the cycle of responding on their terms, especially remind nag scold. I feel like that has become a subconscious negative mantra lately.
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